1. Acknowledge the breakup.
Don’t worry, my friends, this is the hardest part. Call up the friends you’ve shoved aside during the course of your relationship. They still love you; they’ll be there for you. They’ll make you laugh, and even if you are still in love, for a few minutes they will convince you otherwise.
2. Allow yourself to feel relief.
Even if you don’t really feel that way. Just do it. Sit back and relax. Explore your newfound freedom. You escaped something and better times are coming your way.
3. Regret everything.
Regret the narwhal shirt you bought them for their birthday. Regret the sexy snap chats you sent them while they were away in Hungary. Regret the fact that they know every deep dark thing about you. Regret everything, but the experience. And, that means more than anything else. Remember a day you felt safe and loved in their arms, lodge that into your moment. That’s the only thing that should stay there.
4. Go through an awkward, we-are-still-friends-but-should-we-talk-or-not-phase with your ex.
Even if you were never friends to begin with, you will be friends. It may take weeks, months or years, but someday you will see them at the old coffee shop you two used to eat at together, and you’ll laugh.
5. Realize how hard it is to be single.
Realize you go out at night, strangely hoping you’ll run into Mr. Right (realize you probably won’t). Realize how much you hate your friends, who are in relationships, go to bed alone, and depressed.
6. Have a relapse. Stalk their Facebook and Instagram.
Struggle a little bit. Cover up the pictures of them in your room; throw the presents they gave in the back of their sock drawer. But don’t give in. Don’t give them your heart back, they don’t deserve it. Not yet, anyways.
7. Learn how to be alone again.
YOU get to pick what to watch on TV every night. YOU get to pick what’s for dinner. They didn’t like Chinese food? Eat Chinese food until you’re sick to your stomach. Get comfortable sleeping in a cold bed. Make decisions by yourself. It’s your time to shine, baby.
8. Get more attractive. Seriously.
Lose some weight, buy a new wardrobe. Do something amazing. Do something for you.
9. Have a beer. Or ten.
Maybe cry a little bit more. Debate texting them, but hand your phone over to your friend. Drunkenly realize they weren’t the one for you, and acknowledge how lucky you must be, because someday you’ll find someone who will gladly be sitting next to you, and everything will be perfect. Continue to drink beer.
10. Kiss someone new.
Don’t push for passionate. But try it. Seriously.
11. Get jealous.
Think about all the other people your ex is with. Think about how one day they will find someone who will make them happier than you could. Think about everything you did wrong, and everything you would change. It will leave you transparent every time, accept that and go on with your day.
12. Make contact.
Send them a Facebook message, text them. Crack a inside joke, or tell them about the new steakhouse you went to that you were supposed to visit together. Don’t sound desperate. Don’t be a bitch. But say something.
13. Talk shit with your friends.
Talk about how bad their breath smelled in the morning, or how their future is a dead end. You don’t have to mean everything you say, just do it. Trust me. Say things you would have never said aloud in your relationships. You’re free. Remember?
14. Think about your future, one that they are no longer a part of.
Think about the dream car you wanted, but they would never let you have. Plan a vacation to Bora Bora, or Costa Rica, you don’t have to work around anyone’s schedule but your own. Focus on your dream job. Focus on you, you, and you.
15. Tell yourself you’re ok. Everyday.
Wake up and realize how good you’ve got it. One day you’ll start to believe it.
16. Fall in love.
Give this person everything all over again. Realize how scary it is, realize how much better it is.
Until one day, you won’t have to anymore.
Source: Thought Catalog. You can read a lot more BY CLICKING HERE
With almost all eyes and ears to Brazil for the ongoing 2014 FIFA World Cup, it’s easy [especially for men] to forget or ignore what is more important than anything else on earth; FAMILY. It can end up to be as disastrous for you like an over crowded movie theater when the games are over[July 13] and you no longer have someone to share your “soccer” views with.
Good thing is, there are activities that can involve the whole family. Dad can squeeze himself where the TV screens are while Mom can easily relax in a friendly bar or simmering her legs into the pool while Kids can do whatever they want [except not playing with a kerosene lantern] or show you the latest moves of selfies if not Kitorondo.
Here is the event you don’t wanna miss. FAMILY POOL PARTY AT ESCAPE this coming Sunday 22nd June,2014. DJ Choka will be there!
Na MOblog, Zanzibar
MOJA ya vitu ambavyo wazanzibari watakumbuka ni jinsi kundi la Kenya ambalo hivi karibuni liliibuka kundi bora katika MTV Base lilivyovamia jukwaa na kuendesha shoo ya saa moja na nusu iliyokuwa na uhakika.
Kundi hilo lenye watu watano wakiongozwa na mtia sauti Bien Baraza liliwaacha hoi wazanzibari waliofurika katika ukumbi wa Mambo uliopo ndani ya Ngome Kongwe na muziki wenye mahadhi ya Afro Pop.
Muziki huo ambao uliwateka vijana kutokana na midundo yake na maneno ya kuchombeza ulionesha kwanini MTV Base walisema ni kundi bora.
Wanamuziki wa Bendi ya Sauti Sol kutoka nchini Kenya likiwasha moto kwenye tamasha la ZIFF 2014 usiku wa kuamkia leo visiwani Zanzibar. Pichani ni Bien Baraza (vocalist) na Willis Austin Chimano (vocalist) wakifanya yao jukwaani. (Picha zote na Zainul Mzige wa Dewjiblog).
Bien Baraza (kushoto) na Willis Austin Chimano (kulia) wakitoa burudani kwenye jukwaa la ZIFF 2014.
Polycarp Otieno (Quitar & Vocalist) akifanya yake ndani ya ZIFF 2014.Sauti Sol watikisa tamasha la ZIFF 2014
Mpiga kinanda wa bendi ya Sauti Sol akifanya yake jukwaani.
Delvine Mudigi (vocals percussion & drums) akichapa drum kwa staili ya aina yake kwa wapenzi wa Live Music ndani ya ZIFF 2014.
He took home record breaking 7 awards at the Kilimanjaro Tanzania Music Awards over the weekend. He had a different sense of fashion statement [Kanye...anywhere?]. Then there was the tall standing lady we call Wema. She was once a beauty queen with national title of Miss Tanzania. She wore,according to fashion blogs, something from Eve Collections. Long story short, they looked great and as the night grew darker, it was Diamond and Wema who dominated. I forgot to count how many times they were to the Social Media Lounge to chat with Millard Ayo,Sam Missago,Jokate Mwegelo and Salma Msangi. They were all over the place.
While awards were celebrated, it was their renewed love that also made headlines. She only prefer to call him “Baby” and Naseeb. On the other hand, he calls her Wema. In private he mentions “Baby” too. Him and I talk sometimes…business.He is a shy one and rarely talks about their love in public. He let her be in charge. After all she is older than him and arguably more experienced with handling the media and public.
Whether you like it or not [And I know what that means] Diamond Platinumz and Wema Sepetu are our couple of the hour. They bring some sort of excitement to showbizz. There is no showbizz without these kind of couples. It would like politics without politicians. If you don’t like what they have [on and off's and at times pretension], it is what it is. Grab your coffee and watch it from the safer distance. It’s love. Nurture it and you get a lot more.Neglect it utavuna mabua.
Mama wa Mitindo ambaye pia ni Mkurugenzi wa Fabak Fashions na wandaaji wa onyesho la Lady in Red, Bi. Asia Idarous Khamsin akizungumza na wadau tasnia ya mitindo waliojumuika kwenye After Party ya kuwashukuru wadau waliotoa michango mbalimbali tangu kuanza kwa onyesho la Lady in Red nchini Tanzania.
…Ally Rehmtulla, Martin Kadinda watunukiwa vyeti vya mafanikio
Na Andrew Chale
HALFA maalumu ya kilele cha Miaka 10 ya onesho la mavazi la ‘Lady in Red Super Brand’ usiku wa Jumamosi Februari 22, lilikuwa la aina yake kwa kuvutia watu mbali mbali ndani ya Ukumbi na mgahawa wa kisasa wa Nyumbani Lounge, ambapo pia wadau walikabidhiwa vyeti.
Tukio hilo la aina yake ambalo lilivuta umati mkubwa wakiwemo wadau wa ubunifu na mitindo nchini pamoja na watu maalufu, Pia walipata kupita kwenye zuria jekundu (red carpet) na kupata picha za ukumbusho wa tukio hilo.
Kwa upande wake, Mkurugenzi wa Fabak Fashions na wandaaji wa onyesho hilo kila mwaka, Asia Idarous Khamsin, aliwashukuru wadau waliojitokeza kwenye halfa hiyo maalumu na kutoa vyeti kwa watu na taasisi zilizoweza kuliunga mkono onyesho hilo pamoja.
Mama wa Mitindo Bi. Asia Idarous Khamsin akipozi wakati wa zoezi la kugawa vyeti na models waliovaa mavazi yaliyoonyeshwa kwenye onyesho la kutimiza miaka 10 la Lady in Red lililofanyika hivi karibuni.
“Tunamshukuru Mungu kwa kufikisha Miaka 10 ya Lady in red, hadi kufikia hapa, tumeweza kufanya mambo makubwa katika tasnia hii ya ubunifu wa mavazi na jukwaa hili litaendelea kuwa chachu ya mafanikio zaidi na zaidi” alisema Asia Idarous.
Na kuongeza kuwa, jukwaa hilo ndilo pekee lililoweza kuibua wabunifu wakubwa hapa nchini huku wengine wakipeperusha vyema bendera ya Tanzania nje ya nchi, wabunifu hao ni pamoja na Ally Rehmtullah, Martin Kadinda, Ahmed Abdul, Faustin Simon.
Mwanamitindo wa siku nyingi Fiderine Iranga akipokea cheti kutoka kwa Mama wa mitindo Asia Idarous Khamsin kwa kutambua mchango wake katika tasnia ya mitindo nchini.
It was a Super Sunday full of fun [except for Broncos supporters]. It was a SuperBowl Sunday arguably one of the most watched and closely followed sports events may be just behind Soccer World Cup and Olympics.
As it turned out,it wasn’t a great evening for the Denver Broncos even with a superb Quarterback like Peyton Manning. They got humiliated by the underdogs Seattle Seahawks by 43-8 margin. Peyton Manning and his teammates ended up having one of the worst defeats in Superbowl’s history. At the end it was Seattle erupting in Halelujah and Denver going back to their cribs without words. Wet eyes is the only thing we could spot across Colorado.
While a lot of watchers for the Superbowl are actually die-hard fans of the American Football [please no debate why it is called "football"], a lot of people tunes in just to watch a half time show.Legends like Madonna, Bruce Springsteen, Beyonce, Prince have been there before. We have talked about their performance over the years and we still, from time to time, mention their genius at work.
This year it was for a 28 years Grammy Awards winner, Bruno Mars to step into the shoes of other legends who got honored to perform at the half- time show. It was a big stage. Bruno Mars understood that and had a plan not to disappoint himself, his fans and everyone who had tuned in. Considered to be one of the most talented youngsters in the industry right now, Bruno had it in his hands to blow it or make history. He did the later and I am glad I was watching.
Here is the video of how he killed it [and most of us agree]
FEEL LIKE LAUGHING? CLICK PLAY. MAKE SURE YOU ARE 18 AND ABOVE.
Unajua kama kuna kitu kinanifurahisha ninapoketi na kuanza kuchambua makbrasha ya muziki wa zilipendwa kwa ajili ya hii segment ya Ijumaa ya Zilipendwa ni kwamba huwa napata pia nafasi ya kusikiliza sio tu jinsi ambavyo wanamuziki wa enzi zile walijaaliwa ujuzi wa utungaji na pia mpangilio wa “muziki” mzima, bali pia huwa napata nafasi ya kuwaza mambo kadha wa kadha kwa mkupuo.
Kabla ya kuamua wimbo gani uende hewani ni lazima niangalie mazingira ya wiki nzima. Nasikiliza yangu ya moyoni na pia kusikiliza yale yanayojiri au yaliyojiri kwenye jamii. Nasoma na kuuliza. Ni kazi nzuri. Naipenda kwani licha ya kunisaidia kuondoa stress binafsi ninapozisikia nyimbo ambazo leo tunaziita Zilipendwa nakumbuka mbaaali. Enzi zile sikuijua shida. Kila kitu kilikuwa sawa…unataka kujua kwanini? Nipigie simu tuongee.
Wimbo wa leo unaitwa Kigeugeu. Ni kutoka kwao Super Volcano. Mbaraka Mwinshehe aliimba na Stephen Hiza mwaka 76 katika mtindo wa Masika! Enzi hizo naweza kusema ni tofauti na sasa. Enzi zile wanaume ndio walikuwa “vigeugeu”. Mtu alikuwa anaweza kuchumbia na bado akaingia mitini. La Haula leo…vigeugeu ni wengi.Wanaume kwa wanawake. Wa mjini tunasema Ngoma Droo. Lakini mwisho wa siku, mmoja lazima ashindwe.
Usikilize hapa chini. Wimbo huu uende kwake rafiki yangu Fidelis Tungaraza akiwa kule Ufini na waungwana wote wa kundi la ENZI ZETU ndani ya Facebook
Sina muda mwingi sana leo wa kuandika kile ninachokiwaza kichwani mwangu.Lakini kama ujuavyo, leo ni Ijumaa na sio mbaya tukakumbuka enzi zile za dansi.
Huu hapa ni wimbo Naomi kutoka kwao DDC Mlimani Park Orchestra (Nginde)
Nianze kwa kukuomba msamaha wewe mpenzi wa segment hii ya Zilipendwa hapa BC. Kwa majuma kadhaa nimeshindwa kukupatia “raha”. Yapo mambo yalikuwa yanajiri ambayo kimsingi yalisababisha nami niingie kwenye ule mkumbo wa “sababu zilizo nje ya uwezo wangu”.Nisamehe na tuendelee.
Wakati nikikagua maktaba yangu ya miziki “Zilipendwa”, neno “mtumwa” lilikatiza. Ajabu ni kwamba katika siku za usoni nimekuwa nikiwaza sana jinsi binadamu anavyoweza kurubuniwa mpaka kuwa “mtumwa” wa kitu fulani.Unaweza kuwa mtumwa, kwa mfano, wa mtu fulani kwa sababu ana kipato fulani au pesa.Atakachokisema basi unakimbia kama “zuzu” hivi kwa sababu tu anazo hela kukushinda. Huthubutu kumwambia hapana. Hubishi kitu. Unabakia kukenua tu meno na kujichekeshachekesha. Umekuwa mtumwa.
Hapa DDC Mlimani Park(Sikinde) wanayo pia maudhui kama hayo hapo juu. Watu(hususani wanawake) kukubali kuwa “watumwa” kwa watu fulani fulani kisa….pesa au kipato. Upo wapi utu wako? Upo wapi uhuru wako wa kutafuta chako? Upo wapi uwezo aliokupa Mwenyezi Mungu wa kutumia akili yako na hivyo kubakia huru japo kimtizamo na kimawazo?Zipo aina nyingi za utumwa. Ukiwa na muda unaweza kuziongeza.
Wasikilize DDC Mlimani Park na wimbo Sitokubali Kuwa Mtumwa. Uwe na weekend njema na kumbuka ukipiga masanga basi usikae kwenye kiti cha dereva. Nataka ufike salama ili kesho nyumbani kwako pasiwe na majamvi au mikeka.